Popular dancer and choreographer Kaffy has opened up about a painful childhood experience, revealing that at just 13 years old, her mother accused her of having an affair with one of her boyfriends.
Speaking on The Honest Bunch podcast, Kaffy recounted how she was stripped naked and flogged after her mother misinterpreted her attempt to assist the man, who had injured himself while shaving.
The dance coach described the incident as deeply traumatic, saying it left her struggling with insecurities for years. She explained that the experience pushed her to break free from what she termed her mother’s “emotional abuse and blackmail” in order to build her own identity.
“I was 13 when my mother started suspecting me with her own men. Because of the divorce she had kinds of people. She will have different men she is dating and we will see those men as daddies because we were also missing that father [figure].
“The closer you are to the men, the more she is insecure. And there was a day that I was stripped naked in front of that man in the livingroom and punished for just trying to help ‘daddy’ clean a blood from his face because he was shaving and cut himself. My mother walked into the room when I was saying, ‘Daddy, see.’ And she misinterpreted what was happening and I was flogged naked in front of everyone.
“That had it own traumatising effect on the mind on its own. But then you are thinking, ‘But that’s my mother, would I do that to my mother? Why would my mother even think of that of me, the daughter?’ Are you seeing that transfer of insecurity from mother to child? It’s done subliminally but it’s going to have its own effect,” she stated.
