Nene Aderigbigbe, mother of Nigerian singer Ayra Starr, has spoken candidly about her decision to permanently end three close friendships, revealing the reasons behind each fallout.
In a reflective New Year message shared on TikTok, Aderigbigbe revisited the choices she made years ago, admitting she recently questioned whether she had acted too harshly.
“So I was reflecting on life, you know, it is a new year, and you want to reflect and see what you can correct. I now remember that a few years ago, I cut off from a few of my friends. I do not know if I overreacted, and do you know why I did it?” she said.
Explaining the first fallout, she cited a breach of trust involving a private conversation. According to her, a friend disclosed a confidential discussion they had with her husband.
“Three of them, we are friends, we talk together about women’s things. The next day, one of them was now telling me that the thing we had discussed, I told my husband. I was like why but she was like I told my husband and he said it’s okay. She cut the phone, since that day till now, I have not picked up her call,” Aderigbigbe explained.
She questioned the boundaries crossed by the disclosure and said it was enough reason to walk away. “Because why would you go and tell your husband what you were talking about? Do I know your husband? Is it not you I met, and we became friends? I do not want those kinds of friends. And if she is watching this video, that is why I do not talk to you again.”
The second friendship, she revealed, ended due to what she described as uncomfortable interactions involving the friend’s husband.
“The second person, I am your friend, why will your husband be telling me I am in America. Mummy Oyinkan, I just arrived in London. Why are you telling me you are in America? Did I send you there? I am your wife’s friend, I do not want to be your friend,” she added.
Aderigbigbe stressed that such contact made her uneasy. “Do not text me, I am not comfortable with it, not everybody is comfortable with something like that. I just do not like it.”
The final friendship, according to her, ended because it became emotionally draining. She described a friend who repeatedly complained about her husband despite being married for over 20 years.
“The third person, the reason I cut her off is that you have been married for 20 years, but she would still be calling me to report her husband to me. Do you want me to go and beat him where he is? Marriage that you have endured for years, so what do you want me to say? Why do you want to drain me mentally?” she said.
Aderigbigbe concluded by revealing that none of the three former friends were ever told why she distanced herself from them.
“So that is why I cut those friends off, and till today, they do not even know why,” she added.
