In today’s episode, we want to discuss Relationships. Is it something we should get into? Why do people stress themselves over it? What actually is the essence of it?
In this generation, people go in and out of relationships as quickly as they change clothes, they don’t realize that people aren’t objects, they have emotions and these emotions affect their daily lives. I’m sure each of us reading this have been hurt before or have hurt others in the course of a relationship – either during, or after.
I know most people would argue with me, that relationship is natural as God said we should come together as one and multiply, and if we don’t date how would we then get married. Some would say relationships are a way of getting to know somebody you would spend the rest of your life with. But hear me out when I say that relationships these days are doing us more harm than good.
People don’t value relationships anymore, they take it as a game, or a sport. But why? It wasn’t like this in the past. People had regard for others in the past. People knew what they wanted in the past. People fought for what they wanted in the past. What changed? What influenced us?
For you to decide to be in a relationship with another individual, you must be ready to commit. Be ready to love. Be ready to care for. Be ready to communicate. Be ready to trust without doubt. Be ready to express and open up yourself and not be secretive. Be ready to sacrifice(if it’s for a good cause).
Most of us these days don’t want to do any of that. We don’t want to feel weak, we feel if we show emotions then we would be taken for granted or be played.
The minute you start drawing back or not giving yourself fully, you don’t get to enjoy the true essence of the relationship and then start being ‘toxic’, overbearing, or insecure.
People would carelessly make comments like:
‘No be me love pass o.’
‘I can’t be a fool for love, what if they serve me breakfast?’
‘relationship is not that deep oo. If anything sup, just move to the next person’
‘you better hurt them before they hurt you o’
We come across people with this mentality daily and I really wonder how love will survive if this generation doesn’t see it as something worth valuing. These kinds of thoughts would only make us worse. We view love/relationships as something people should avoid and then get into it for the wrong reasons, come out hurt and then decide to hurt others.
Love doesn’t have to be a competition. The Bible tells us what love is, listing out qualities of love and if after reading and meditating on that scripture, you find out you’re lacking and you don’t see yourself wanting to be better, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
