Every week the public is bombarded with lovely pictures and videos on social media about Beautiful couples, dating or married. Social media contains pictures of half of the world’s beautiful couples. Each person usually strikes a pose with the opposite sex holding hands, hugging, and kissing. Seeing it alone would prompt a caption in your mind making you know that they’re romantically involved.
But oftentimes some months and years later you would probably notice that something weird has happened: as news of the two persons you saw holding hands and linking arms in January has gone their separate ways, but June brought a new romantic interest.
Is that romance or infatuation? Columnist Ann Lander made a very vivid distinction between infatuation and romantic love: ” infatuation is instant desire, one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time .”
Infatuation is usually denoted by a feeling of insecurity. You’re excited and aroused but not truly happy. There are uncertainties, doubts, unrest, and confusion. There are character issues and flaws in the one you love, but you don’t want to examine them too well hence it spoils the dream. That’s infatuation. You just like them for how they arouse and make you feel and even if they don’t tick other boxes in your life you just seem to be too high emotionally attached to them that you rather prefer to suffer keeping them in your life than allowing another have them.
But love is understanding and the maturity in accepting imperfections. True Love gives self-respect and helps you respect the choices and decisions of another. Infatuation makes you hold on to someone even when it’s against their will, and the more you keep trying to keep them the more they feel choked and fight to leave.
Infatuation says ” we must get married right away I can’t risk losing you ” ( It does not care if the other wants to be with you.)
Love, however, says ” Be patient, don’t fret. Plan your future carefully, and inquire about the feelings and opinions of others.
Infatuation usually has an element of sexual excitement. You usually think about sex with this person anytime they’re around you, always about how they can satisfy you. But love is unconditional friendship. It presupposes friendship before love. You must be friends before you can become good lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence and trust. When she’s away you wonder if she’s cheating and vice versa. Sometimes you even stalk them to check up. But love spells trust. You’re cool, secure, and unthreatened. Your partner feels the trust also, and it makes him even more reliable.
Infatuation might prompt you to do things you’ll regret later, but love will not. Loves make you see the best and think the best of your partner.
These are some proven ways to make your woman feel loved :
1. Tell her that you love her :
“I love you ” will bring smiles to her heart. Women most especially want to know they’re loved and wanted and that simple speech might score a lot of points.
A phone call during the day to check up on her, a love poem, or a text would greatly help her feel loved. Women easily lose the sense of “I love you ” but an insult can be in their minds for years. So always be careful with your words and affirm and reassure them of your love for them.
2. Compliment her :
Compliments, appreciation, and encouragement are so important. Tell her you’re proud of her, tell her she’s beautiful, tell her, her hair looks great, etc. Women generally do things to gain attention, the reason why she spends 5-6 hours in the salon for her hairdo is to catch attention. It’s therefore very disheartening for ladies to go through that ordeal to look beautiful and you see it and don’t compliment it.
3. Give her gifts :
Ladies do feel very elated when you buy them a present. They feel like a queen with all the wealth of the world. The gift doesn’t have to be expensive but the delivery should be superb and surprising, that’s what ladies see as romance. Like I said the gift doesn’t have to be expensive but the very fact that you thought of it with her in mind would score you love points.
4.Non-sexual touch:
A woman’s body is so responsive to touch. Science says that touch helps her heal. When a lady is down and getting uptight, just a non-sexual touch or hug can make her feel better. I said non-sexual because a lady wants to know she means more to you than just sex.
