As humans, we have mastered how to control our emotions in every aspect of our lives except when it comes to relationships. Emotions are real but may not always be true.
You are created to control your feelings and not the other way round and people who are unable to manage how they feel are at a risk of not doing well in life, owing to the fact that their feelings can lead them astray.
In relationships, women would have to struggle with taming their emotions while men would have to control their sexuality. Seeing that this is a topic that resonates more with the female folks because of their emotional nature, they would have to learn more on managing their emotions as regarding relationship more than their male counterparts.
Unlike women, men are not really emotional when it comes to relationship but they may be emotional about other areas of their lives. And because they’re not, they can easily walk out of a relationship that is not serving them properly and representing their interest compared to the females.
Well, I think the origin of this problem of managing emotions for women started in the book of Genesis where God pronounced that because of what eve did, she would so desire her husband that he would rule over her, and this is so true (Genesis 3:16). Have you Ever wondered how the very smart, sophisticated, talented and well-educated woman who is a high flyer in her career, leads a vast team including top ranking men at the work place, and is a major decision maker in her industry can make the worst mistakes and decisions when it comes to relationship and marriage, all in the name of love?
I have seen countless women and girls who were doing great in business and other areas of life enter into a relationship or marry a man who beats them, cheats on them, collects their money and some even have to experience their man bringing another woman home to their matrimonial bed and they’re being sent to the living room, yet no courage to walk out of such abusive relationship and marriage because they’re now slaves to their emotions. Some even after leaving would still return because they can’t deal with being alone without a man and without love.
Though emotions are real but they’re not always true, you can’t do what you feel like all the time, hence, this world would be a chaotic place to live in.
For most persons staying in Lagos who have 9-5 jobs, and have to wake up as early as 4am to beat the traffic and make it to work on time, there comes a rainy morning when you just want to lay in bed and sleep a little longer, then wake up, make yourself a hot cup of cocoa and go back to bed again. However, you take charge over that feeling and decide to do what is expected of you – Go to work.
Emotions are really controlled by thought patterns, so if you want to gain mastery of your emotions, be in control of your thought life. Change your thoughts and your emotions would follow suit. The reason why a lady would find it very difficult to leave an abusive relationship is based on the fact that such a lady has imbibed some wrong thinking patterns which is reinforcing those unwholesome feeling. Maybe she’s thinking “I would never find love again”. If these wrong thinking patterns are not destroyed, she would live tied emotionally to the man enduring being treated unfairly.
